“Being honest, I think it wouldn’t work. Nobody would talk, when they did, we’d feel we already knew it, then we’d all feel awful for judging others and hate ourselves for thinking we’re special and unique and use the many people we could connect with as proof that we are not special or unique, we’d find solace in thinking that we’re irreplaceable and incredibly necessary back home, and feel guilt for having left - but when we came back and the world didn’t collapse cos we were gone for 3 days, we’d fall into deep depression upon realising that we are not, the backbone of our worlds and that people can live without us.” -INFJ Confessions
HAHAHAHAHA this is sooooo true.
A humorous take on the general stance of “just because you’re like me, doesn’t mean we’ll work together like icecream on icecream.”
I’ve been avoiding answering this for a few weeks now. In just four words it asks a very big question, and I’m still not sure the best way to answer it. Of course, everything that I post here is important to me, and you can probably get a good sense of who I am by looking at the things I like. And I could answer with the things that everyone would say - music, my friends, stories, art, et cetera - but I’m sure that you know this already, practically by instinct.
So, I want to try to share with you an idea that’s important to me.
This is ATP synthase, a minuscule engine found in every cell. Those purple butterflies flitting away from it at the top are ATP, which is necessary for your body to do just about anything at all. What you’re seeing here is exactly how it works - it’s a hydrogen-powered turbine that spins to generate energy.
Look at this for a moment and try to imagine it. There are literally trillions of turbines inside you, each spinning twenty thousand times every minute, all working in concert to power your every motion, every gesture and thought. You are a massive, complicated, unfathomable, beautiful machine.
Now, when I say that you’re a machine, I don’t mean to detract from your sense of humanity at all. The fact that our thoughts can be described in biochemical terms does not diminish the value of our thoughts in any way. We know intuitively that our lives and our emotions are important and worthwhile and beautiful, and nothing can take that away from us. So if you feel uncomfortable about love being an observable biochemical phenomenon, for example, think of it this way: instead of saying that love is “nothing but a chemical reaction”, say that chemicals possess an innate capacity for love. It sounds incredibly cheesy, but it’s true; the laws of the universe are written in such a way that life consciousness and thought can arise out of plasma and dust, and that is amazing.
I have one more thing I want to show you here. Let’s take a step back, change our scale of perspective, and look at something big.
In 2003 and 2004, astronomers took the Hubble Telescope and pointed it and a region of blackness - a tiny piece of space, one thirteen-millionth of the sky devoid of visible stars - and let it stare in the same direction for about three months. This is what they saw:
Every point of light in this image is an entire galaxy, each composed of hundreds of billions of stars. Even if only one star in a billion is capable of supporting life, there are more living solar systems out there than there are turbines whirring in your body.
So we are colossal, complicated creatures, each of us composed of incredible worlds straining to bring about communication between you and me; and we are impossibly small, insignificant specks in an unimaginably vast universe, older and greater than we have the brainpower to comprehend. There is so much out there, and there is so much inside is, and my mind just reels at the scale of it all.
But what’s really important to me, and what I really find beautiful, is that despite the daunting vastness and complexity of everything, it’s all something we can grow to understand. I will never be able to understand everything, but I can hold part of it in my mind, and that’s enough to make me ecstatic.
I hope I was able to say this clearly. We live in a beautiful world, and I hope you find it beautiful too.
This sense of existential euphoria is not unique to Ni dominant types, but sadly, few people can ever really share this elation that comes from getting to know the universe intimately. It is kind of like a numinous sense of “living nirvana.”
The difference between the above Fe perspective and INTJ perspective, is that it will be quick to focus on our interconnectedness, while the INTJ will have a more “the universe is indifferent” sort of focus. The Te aspect of the INTJ will drive them to look at the universe as a system that they are both a part of and at the mercy of and that it “is what it is.” It ends up being tertiary Fi that leads the INTJ to decide what has value, worth, and matters. Seeing themselves as the means for the universe to know itself, they are the universe’s way of exploring itself. As my ENFJ (secondary Ni) mother likes to say, “Mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” In other words, realizing that nothing matters until we bestow importance, we are in direct control of what matters by our ability to consciously decide on importance.
This is even more poignant to an NJ with Fi because deciding what matters is a core part of their lives and will always be an ever-present motif. This brings me full circle to the purpose of this entire response. To anyone who doesn’t have Fi, this response would take more time to eloquently express, but would express more or less the same thing. It just comes down to the INTJ’s tertiary Fi practice and experience with the question. It is a question that is often asked by the edge of the INTJ’s consciousness.
I took the Jung Typology test at HumanMetrics
Then the description from TypeLogic:
Beneath the quiet exterior, INFJs hold deep convictions about the weightier matters of life. Those who are activists — INFJs gravitate toward such a role — are there for the cause, not for personal glory…
While the type tests are hardly enough to conclude type, since you need a Jungian’s analysis, if you are an INFJ I am just stating the obvious.